Presence

When times are changing, any type of change really, it is good to know there are those standing with you.  I found myself going through this recently.  I anticipated my feelings.  I knew who would stand and be counted.  I was directionally right but totally off-base when it came to understanding just how important I would feel their presence was in the middle of the experience.  In hindsight, my thoughts were na?ve, simplistic, and optimistic.  I did not imagine how important “they” were, are.  I had no idea of valuable their support would be.  I could not imagine the way the simple act of eating, hanging out, or sharing a bit of conversation would touch my life.  Their “being there” touched me in ways I still do not fully comprehend.
 
You and I were born to be in and with family.  In our early days we did not realize how important this relationship was.  It was as if we were striving to be out on our own – stoic, resolute, capable – as if we were independent of everyone, without need of their friendship, support, and presence.
 
With the graying of my life I have come to appreciate just how wrong I was!  Diplomatically stated, I was clueless.  I thought I was an island.  I believe I was alone, that nobody could or would understand my aspirations, beliefs, or even desires.
 
Even if I was right I was wrong.  Many today live in a world were few care.  Desperate times highlight the vulnerability each of us has.  Without employment, or even the presence of an employer, do we carry hope?  Without family who can support, where to we turn when our home and community are destroyed?  Without each other, how do we face the night alone?
 
In the wake of Jesus’ death, “Nicodemus, who had first come to Jesus at night, came now in broad daylight carrying a mixture of myrrh and aloes, about seventy-five pounds.” (John 19.39)  The act was priceless.  In the cold day’s light, we have family who need us and we them.  Carpe diem!