In fighting to win there is a common question to every battle. Is this the one? Do I believe that this is the battle worth fighting to win, or is it a bad fight that both sides will lose no matter what the outcome might suggest?
The first time I encountered this question was with my daughter around her second birthday. Even at the time I knew it would be a pivotal question and moment in both of our lives. As Cherry and I questioned either other to our feelings, emotions, and motives, our resolve strengthen into something total and absolute; we would not, could not lose this battle! As I look back, I am confident that we made the correct decision for all of us.
The question applies today as much as it did then. The battle field is not always about control but about which direction will we choose for our next steps. There are questions that we wonder if we should deal with; is this the one? There are problems that need to be dealt with; is this something that I must deal with today? We are in relationships that need to be challenged; am I growing and giving in this relationship?
Am I answering the right question or just something rhetorical or not relevant? Do I need to deal with this or is it merely a distraction trying to draw me away from the real problem. Am I an agent in a foreign land or is this relationship at the heart of my mission and purpose?
Depending on our answer, we will and can know if this is a decision, battle, choice that we should be engaged in. God does not ask us to fight every battle. He does ask us to walk a journey filled with faith, grace, and compassion. As you feel blinded turn toward the Light for hope. Resting in the Divine is always provides the answer.
“Escape quickly from the company of fools; they’re a waste of your time, a waste of your words.” (Proverbs 14.7)