The coffee with an old friend was very good. I do not think the cup itself was particularly special. What made everything different was conversation. It was focused, open, and wide open. During the session, which in reality did not last that long, I found myself reflecting on a range of subjects.
Friendship deepens with time. Whatever one might say, sharing history creates a potential bond that cannot be taken away. Either party can ignore it. Even when there are disagreements, either party can use it to move forward in a positive way.
Shared experiences opens up the potential for more conversation. It is as if our shared vocabulary expands with each experience we have in common.
Recognizing shared views of events, people, and values strengthens the bonds we share. One can know but yet not “know”. One can recognize without sensing the experiential elements that comes with time.
Staying focused on the greater good leads to more than one can imagine. It is always tempting to use friendships to one’s personal advantage. As I trust the good in others, I find myself living in gifts of their friendship.
A writer left us with a warning. “By no means risk turning this Meal into an eating and drinking binge or a family squabble. It is a spiritual meal—a love feast.” (1 Corinthians 11.33b) His context may have been a spiritual meal; I find that it applies to what I share with others.
As our conversation drifted in a focused way, I found myself energized by the sense of mutual respect, honor, and commitment. It was fun to carve out the time. In the conversation, I found myself in the grip of Hope. Everything about it was a step to a better future.
I wake to a new day realizing that the coffee yesterday does not have to start and end as a individual event. It was an invitation to a fresh approach in the moments we have at hand. In this moment, you and I can do and be more. It begins now, with us.
