Boxers know they have their corner. It is a safe place. It is where one goes when one needs to be out of the way. Most importantly, in one’s corner you know that you will be taken care of, supported, and encouraged. It is a good place! I have never heard any boxer refer to his corner as something bad.
For me, working with others on my team is my corner. My commitment to being the best at what we are committed to do in my head has no limits. Physically, mentally, and corporately there are always limits. The balance of knowing when and what to do, the need to rely on others, trusting that we will work for the common good, is the only way to push the physical limits as close to the ideal as possible.
In the heat of the challenge, I find hard to deal with the reality of depending on someone who does not come through. What do you do? What are the options?
I have no easy answers for anyone, including myself. Much of it is out of one’s control. You can educate; it may help. You can support and encourage; this can make a difference. However, whatever it is that you need or want another does next is not your choice, it is her or his choice. The question I am left with is what do I do in the time while I wait for action?
When I look at others who depending fully and completely of things outside of themselves, I find it interesting to see one person’s response to Divinity. His words; “God, you did everything you promised, and I’m thanking you with all my heart.” (Psalm 56.12) In the hope that others come through for you and for me, let me offer the following.
Giving space to others to be and do what they will is better than trying to manipulate them.
Acting in hope is a way of giving hope to others.
Celebrate actions with positive intent.
Opening doors is always better than closing them.
