It was interesting to press through a situation. As I worked with my partner on a concept paper, it was obvious to each that we had two very different perspectives. For many reasons, including life experiences, expertise, passions, and writing styles, we approach every task differently. As different as we are, we have historically valued what the other brought to the table.
Our creative session was challenging everything. Words are important because they tell the story while representing our individual perspectives. Whatever one might think, words are proxies for us! As we pushed, challenged, and championed our views, I found myself exhausted. Even as part of my wanted to give in and up, I refused to let go. At the same time, I found myself holding on to keys that have helped get us as far as we are, respect and openness. Whatever I might think, there is a better way of telling the story. In working together, we will be quicker to the truth with each other’s help.
As the tension grew, I found myself holding onto to three thoughts.
Take time to remind the other of what you most value. It is easy to forget, even and especially because you are friends that spend a lot of time together. Use the words with emotion. Express them, verbally and in action.
Demand the best of each other. This is not the time to be shy. If you do not understand, say so. If you need clarity, state the obvious. Whatever the gap is, put is on the table. One writer us with the model when he verbalized his God demand; “Now answer me, God, because you love me; let me see your great mercy full-face.” (Psalm 69.16)
Trust the process and push through to the end. As we struggled yesterday it seemed as though the goal was never going to come into sight. In pushing, struggling, and fighting through we discovered something better than either of us imagined.
We have a co-authored a strong, articulate, and insightful draft. Looking ahead, Hope makes the goal possible.
