I listened to the conversation with interest. There are two theories when it comes to candid feedback. In alternative one, candor takes the form of oblique remarks, often humor that can be understood in multiple ways. The punch line is that clear candor is not allowed!
The other option is the degree of transparent candor that one embraces. A few embrace the idea of blunt, transparent candor. In my experience, this often comes across as naïve and at times arrogant. As recent experiences remind me, even those with experience and time find striking a balance is difficult.
Embedded in both is an accusation to those in charge. The accusation follows a trail of lost expectations, dashed hope, and broken promises. In several situations the accusation is clear. Metaphorically is replays the old Psalmist’s words; “You tore up the promise you made to your servant, you stomped his crown in the mud.” (Psalm 89.39)
Without apologizing or excusing, Life reminds me of the following.
There is always a larger story. We may not see it. We may not want to acknowledge that it exists. Regardless, you and I live in a story that is greater than our life. As a member of my community, being a part of a better story involves understanding the story we are in.
Things change. I often do not want to accept change that does not work to my advantage. See, understanding, and responding to change links to the larger story and remaining relevant. There is so much we can do. Our challenge is to always act in the best ways we can, which includes context, need, and purpose.
Aspirations, intent, and actions are rarely black and white. Conflicting priorities leads to a balanced approach which can be seen as a compromise or failure to act as promised. Letting go of what is outside our control, releasing ourselves into the present, and focusing on our opportunity to respond now opens a door to living life to the fullest.
While candor can be helpful and liberating, engaged living is always the best choice.
