One of the more unreported evils in the way we treat each other is known as an honor killing. Before singling out one faith system, the act of punishing another because s/he behaves inconsistently with traditions is fairly common, almost routine. Parents to children, siblings to each other, and individuals in power to those who have less. Physical punishment, emotional abuse, and in some cases going to the extent of imposing death are on a slippery scale that is in my experience, wrong from the first step. Yet the connection between honor and killing remains.
Recent events have reminded me how important certain words are. In this case, the meaning of honor. Most focus on the first definition of the word, by starting with the words respect and esteem. When they reach a high or greater standard, honor comes into view. While this is an important part of the meaning, it is the second part that gives the word life. One definition spoke of “the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right.” When one uses this in action (as a verb), the definition becomes “to fulfil (an obligation) or keep (an agreement).’
When principles and action are put together, the meaning of honor takes on a visible shape that is also a tangible experience. I find the psalmist use of the word helpful along these lines; “Honor his [Divinity’s] holy name with Hallelujahs, you who seek God. Live a happy life!” (Psalm 105.3) When I repeat this using my words, “If you believe in compassion, love, and community, then celebrate it with actions to others. In short, live in, with, and through happiness!”
In today’s turmoil, uncertainty, and pain, it is hard to imagine a better response. Your life and mine are difficult enough. We have opportunities to help each other through honor. I hope I never again pick up the sword of abuse, the spear of control, and the bully’s hammer. Too much pain is the result. Instead, celebrate with an embrace of respect, a voice of compassion, and with hands of love.
