As I worked to find my place within a new team, I shared my observations. While not intentionally harsh, I am sympathetic to anyone reacting defensively. My notes were candid, and direct. There was no extra context or highlights of the amazing outcomes to date. While there are many, my focus was on the opportunities for action and improvement.
In reading the varied responses, I wonder if I would have responded with the graciousness, openness, and excitement of my peers. While I hope so, I also know it is hard. As a dusty sunrise emerges over the desert, I find myself with a related psalm; “God, investigate my life; get all the facts firsthand.” (Psalm 139.1)
If one wants to be better, truth must be on the table. Doctors rely on test outcomes before sharing a diagnosis and course of action. Coaches observe before giving feedback. Judgements start with facts. As difficult as it can be when facts reveal weaknesses and failings, if we want to do something to make things better, we need to see what we have done.
If one is looking to be better, then one must be willing to change. Change may already be underway. In this is the case, one is demonstrating a willingness to learn, understand, and act differently. The key is a willingness within oneself to feed one’s soul differently and use the learning to take different decisions. In substance as well as visuals, there will be an ongoing process of growth reflected by different attitudes, interactions, and choices.
As one embraces the desire to change, there is a cycle of trying, reflecting, learning, and endlessly repeating the processes of realizing the potential of being and doing things in better ways. One should not underestimate how difficult it is to break habits and form new ones. The process of reflection is, when deep and complete, often painful. Understanding often requires time, wisdom notes from others, and renewed commitment.
It is in our actions, especially when nobody is watching and apparently nothing is at stake, that our answer is written.
