One of the weaknesses I wrestle with is readiness. Even with tools at my disposal, at the moment I was going into a call to continue a negotiating discussion, I was certain I was coming in unprepared. In my busyness, I had not refreshed my mind, reviewed our goals, reread the offer, and, most importantly, let go of the distractions.
If this was the first time, I would have excused myself and moved on. However, it is a pattern which reappears with a recurring frequency. In each situation, I carelessly forget to tend to my heart and mind. It is as if I let demands distract me from the disciplines which give me the ability to bring my best and more effective self to the situation.
Life replays the scenes, reminding me of old and new lessons which I need to keep at the ready.
Above all, take care of one’s heart and soul. This is illustrated by the instruction passengers hear every time they fly, usually during the oxygen mask section. Take care of yourself first before helping others. My why for starting here centers on two Life reminders.
Ultimately, decisions are emotional. As influential as our minds are, it is the heart which strikes the balance between our desires and our mental recommendation. Without care, the foundation for heart decisions will wobble with inconsistency.
Secondly, decisions have context and consequences. When I take care of my heart, I see and feel more clearly. When I am bruised, hurting, and stressed, I struggle to see much beyond myself. Being emotionally healthy and grounded opens my mind, heart, and senses to everything around me.
Readiness is more than a one-man show. When I was young, I thought I could do everything. With each failure and the recovery that followed, I was reminded that others were willing to help. It started with a psalm and a promise; “God’s there, listening for all who pray, for all who pray and mean it.” (Psalm 145.18). It continues with trusted friends, willing to care and be involved in my life.
