Watching kids of any age play is a reminder of how much affirmation we look for and need in our lives. From a careless squeal of me-too, me-too to a quiet pause to ensure that another has time to consider and appreciate, the reflections of the thirst that is within us plays out in our lives. I love kids under the age of five in action! They have no idea how cute, fun, and innocent their actions are.
I wanted as a boy swung from everything that had something resembling a handhold. He was out on the edge, looking the rush the comes when you push your boundaries, and seeking affirmation that he was awesome to watch. He was! Even as I imagined how tiring this could become for his parents, I found myself reliving moments as a parent and child. I can still feel the thrill and the tiredness. I also recall the need for affirmation and the willingness to give it.
As I age, the things that I do to push my boundaries has changed. The one thing that has not is the need to be affirmed by others. It helps! It also encouraged, energizes, and creates space for more. Observations about the process include the following.
In my life affirmation is never a goal in itself. It is best found as a result of an action, choice, or decision. The difference is driven by intent. When my heart is driven by creating, sharing compassion, and being present, the affirmation of others positively confirms purpose. Without these elements, one’s actions are empty.
Affirmation comes in many forms. The words of others are the obvious channel. The Psalmist’s words remind me that there is more; “Let the loveliness of our Lord, our God, rest on us, confirming the work that we do. Oh, yes. Affirm the work that we do!” (Psalm 90.17) In the beauty of another’s hand, voice, and walk affirmation can be seen. In how others choose to follow, we are affirmed.
In giving, sharing, and accepting affirmation we step into something greater.
