The evidence seemed obvious. Someone had opened the bottle. Since there were a limited number of people in the house, I was confident I could narrow the list of suspects down. Given I was hoping to save the bottle as a re-gift, I was ready with my complaint!
As the truth unfolded, the story was not as simple as I first thought. My assumptions were flawed. As obvious as the torn seal was, it turned out that the bottle had never been opened. The “real” story was as simple as it was different from my initial belief. In moving the bottle, the sealing strip had caught and torn.
Not all conclusions are accurate or truthful. I know I often catch myself believing every deduction, conclusion, and decision I take is perfect. After all, if I reached the conclusion, what possibly could be wrong? As life reminded me with the bottle, let me count the ways!
In this case, I had already tried, convicted, and moved into the sentencing phase before I looked to verify the details. I needed to hear an old warning; “Is that grounds for complaining that God is unfair? Not so fast, please.” (Romans 9.14)
Using the outcomes of assuming is rarely easy. I was so sure. There were no doubts. Everything was true until it was not. Even as I learned from this experience, I know it is a pattern that repeats in my life. Automatic thinking is comforting. Event triggers show up in my emotional responses. Fears, biases, and uncertainties try to dominate.
Whispers from the past took me to times when I did not assume. In each case, I find a deep pause, taking time to reflect and consider potential positive intents, and then moving with kindness and care as guiding steps forward.
Today is an opportunity to go in with eyes open to possibilities. Take everything with a spirit of fresh curiosity. Rediscover opportunities to be a positive force for good. I can replace my negative assumptions with a belief that we can walk together towards a better future.
