Although I wish I could undo many learnings from childhood, or ideally avoided them all together, there is one priceless lesson which is deeply embedded within.
In summary, no matter how you feel, no matter what the cost might be, no matter how unfair it might seem, always honor your word, do what is right.
I have lost count of the moments where I wish I did not have this lesson seared on my heart and in my soul. I suspect life would have been easier. I can see feel the storms which could have been avoided. Inadvertently Life recently reminded me of several lost opportunities where I took the easy option. Each represents a lingering wish for a do-over, a life mulligan, that will never be an option.
The lingering whispers in this space include the following.
In every situation, regardless of whatever you want to fill in the blank of, strive to do what is right. Honoring one’s word is a measure of integrity and fidelity. The underlying rationale starts with being true to yourself and the values you hold closest to your heart.
Reflect, question, and challenge what you think is best. I have a natural bias within me which is self-centered. Before, during, and after, the question I have learned to appreciate is “really?” This is closely followed by “why?”. I have learned to trust in wisdom. When looking for sources of wisdom, always begin with listening, dialogue, and reflection. For me, unless I start with this, I miss wisdom’s voice and the applications it could have in my life.
Honest emotions are critical to a life well lived. I know I always want to feel good, but there are times when darkness prevails. Being candid exposes one’s soul. I cannot recall enjoying being vulnerable. I do know that opening myself up to others has helped, even with the risks to being hurt which always close by.
May I follow experience the old scene where “those who planted their crops in despair will shout hurrahs at the harvest.” (Psalm 127.5)
