Belonging, really belonging, is one of the most important gifts one can give to another. It is more than a feeling. Belonging is the tangible certainty that one has when every fiber, sense, and piece of logical evidence are telltale messages that one belongs. It is interesting when a simple observation triggers reminders of lessons past.
“You are being set up.”
I reacted in the flow, yet the reflection of someone who is close enough to have a view and yet far enough away to not be immediately impacted is a haunting reminder of what my heart and soul can see. I know I cannot control the actions of others. Life has an interesting way of reminding me of past lessons, trying to influence and guide my response to the present.
Belonging is more than an emotion. The memories of great teams linger on within me, as treasured moments which also function as pearls of hope. With each, I do not remember talking about how we belong. The awareness and certainty came in the way we acted, together and apart. Trust emerged through the growing confidence we had in each other. The combination of bilateral and collective relationships was harmonious, intense, and pragmatic. I knew I belonged in and through the decisions and choices others lived out in their lives.
Belonging is more than a gift. When one is a part of something bigger, a team, fraternity, or a community, the relationship one has with others comes with responsibilities and accountability. There will be times, extended on occasion, where one needs to step up and act for the greater good. This includes leading the delivery of care, kindness, and inclusion. Each action reminds one’s heart of the best truths we want to hold close to our hearts.
Belonging is a call to be more than what you were. Life is a greater story than anything one imagines. When one experiences the truth of belonging, it changes everything for everyone. This includes “robust men and women in their prime, and yes, graybeards and little children.” (Psalm 148.12).
