I listened to a new parent to be talk of the pending birth and what was going to change. Two within listening range responded, gently laughing as each reminded him that he had new idea what was about to hit him. With each pushback, shortening the time horizon, talking of involvement and commitment, we became more and more specific. Our banter seemed as if there was only one of us talking.”
“You have no clue.”
“Don’t worry, when we were there, we did not have any idea either.”
“I can almost remember my confidence at the time, thinking I knew. In hindsight, I was so wrong. I was absolutely and totally clueless.”
We did not stop there. We carried on, reminding this young father to be of how much his child would end up reflecting his best and his less than desirable traits. We intentionally went into specifics, speaking of how close to his heart this child could and would touch him.
From my perspective, this young father has one thing going for him. With a backdrop that he is clueless, he wants to experience and be in the mix! He is looking forward to the unknown, confident yet scared, assured even in his uncertainty. As a result, I am hope filled for the child and his new parents.
It is interesting to reflect on the before and after views. When I hear the forecast and implied question, “If they spit on the directions I give them and tear up the rules I post for them,” (Psalm 89.31) what will I do, I know the answer. I will never desert them. I will always love them. I will be their support, when they know and especially when they do not.
This morning I think of the commitment and realize it is a pattern I first experienced with God. My best wishes and prayer are with these two parents. May they know and experience the love their child will need and look to them for. May they always stay connected. May they remember to celebrate each moment.
