I recently shared a story about events from a specific weekend five years ago. Later, one of the story’s characters who is active in my life, pulled me aside and ask a question.
“How do you remember that weekend? It was so long ago. Even though it was an important time for me, the details have faded.”
The question triggered reflection and pause. What makes certain memories last while others fade? One might say it is the magnitude of what happened, but, in my life, I know this filter does not hold up to scrutiny. There are several “big” events which have been lost to time. With others, my memories are very selective. I may remember intent, emotion, or something specific without the whole story coming into focus.
As I consider the question, several reminders are replaying for consideration.
What seems important today, may not be tomorrow. As an example, there are the names of kings long forgotten within the details of a story, “Sihon king of the Amorites, also Og of Bashan – every last one of the Canaanite kings!” (Psalm 135.11). While they were relevant when written, I am not sure they make a particular difference to many today.
It is easy to just react to what happens; it takes wisdom and experience to focus on what is important and let go of the rest. Almost defensively, I willingly admit I do not always succeed in holding onto this reminder. It is hard. This is more than simply “rising above it”. Beyond experience, insights, and more along this line, I find that the times when I succeed are also the times I am filled with peace, hope, and a sense of belonging. When my heart is empty and struggling with darkness, it is almost impossible to see clearly, much less decide.
In dealing with one’s reaction, it is so easy to forget our responsibility in the moment. With freedom and accountability, what step will I take? What is my intentional action? Instant reactions are often lost opportunities to act with kindness, compassion, and love.
