Understanding the motives of others, at least attempting to, is a daily routine in life. I remind myself that it is better to be prepared than not. In reflecting on yesterday and looking towards today and those I will potentially interact with, I want to be as effective as I can be.
I was recently given a label that in turn conveyed an assumption by other about my motivations. As I reflected on the label and what it implied, I found myself take two courses of action. First, I tried to correct or at least eliminate what was incorrect with the label. I am not sure my my response was heard, but at least I tried.
The second action continues to unfold. Of the many things I do, I am taking a fresh look at the time and effort I put into analyzing the motivations of others. Experience suggests that an informed awareness of another’s history often triggers compassion and a sense of mercy. Walking in another’s shoes is helpful. The benefits have a limit. The question is where to draw the line.
My observations are the following.
Taking actions on what one believes is the motivation of others in the absence of a informed view. Admittedly it is easier to comment on the actions of others. When I hear the recurring comment across the ages that “‘Let’s wipe this nation from the face of the earth,’ they say; ‘scratch Israel’s name off the books,’” (Psalm 83.4) I am reminded that destruction is not our call to make.
Regardless of the motivation of others, the question you and I must wrestle with is our own. What motivates us? How will this play out in our intentional actions? Will we take a path that is good for others or just for our self?
There is a balance between reflection and action. Spending too much time on either is a failing formula. Too much reflection can morph into a time of scheming based on conjecture. Equally, action without thought leads to repeating mistakes. There is time for both.
