With reticent candor, I admit that I was rarely patient when I was younger. The young child with a temper tantrum stomp, especially to his mother when demanding immediate attention was me. I wish I had evidence to suggest that I slowed down a bit as I grew up. The challenge is that there are far more proof statements that show the little child lived on in the larger body! Even with decades of feedback, the attitude remained.
As I reflect on two recent examples, one a two-year old body, the other a colleague, the lessons across time are hitting me with increasing force.
Being impatient can be good. The status quo, reluctance to make a difference, are automatically challenged by those that are impatiently looking to make a difference. Even when they know there is new hurdles and barriers, they willingly accept the challenge! The destination is important. A “getting there are fast as possible” attitude often shows it through “why not now” statements and actions.
There are times when the best way of going fast is to go slow. Letting the situation develop so that a point is clear or letting time pass so that the idea settles in can be viable options. Sometimes it is as simple as letting an event occur. In an old story, a victim let evil dance on his life “until God’s word came to the Pharaoh, and God confirmed his promise.” (Psalm 105.19)
It is even more important than normal to listen to others when one is impatient. Listening, deeply and openly, creates an opportunity to hear legitimate concerns, real fears, and hidden doubts. In this opportunity are doorways that, if opened and pursued, create new possibilities of consensus and harmony. If nothing else, they help one avoid mountains that should not be climbed.
As I struggle with my patience in a particular situation right now, the lessons of a lifetime keep returning. Embracing old lessons has already proven helpful. The challenge of being patient is never a one-time event; it replays in each moment of every day.
