In a market survey briefing early in my career, an analyst observed; “Every organization sees itself worse than customers and competitors. You know the inside story. You live with the contractions. As bad as you think it is, you also think that others cannot have it this bad. You believe you are unique. Candidly, you are better than you think you are and others are worse than what you imagine.”
In the darkness of the night, I find myself struggling with the truth. I live with the aspect of hell that I created. My choices, weaknesses, and strengths mix in ways I know could improve. I understand that others say I am priceless. I wonder. This wonder is a burdensome doubt that I carry with me.
In this context, how does one respond to others? Does one ignore the accusations and doubts? What does one do with the weaknesses that are apparent, even if there is a chance that others do not seem them? If one should respond, is there a way to address one’s weaknesses with balance?
Taking the analyst remarks at face value, I find myself holding onto these reminders.
Everyone has weaknesses. Mine are not unique. This does not excuse my failings. Rather, it reminds me that I am part of a community. We have an opportunity to accept each other as we are with the intent of making a positive difference in the lives around us.
Accepting ones state implies that we will not beat ourselves up for being human or assume that others are trying to kick us while we are down. It is an easy struggle to lose. I am reminded that the response often follows Paul’s reception when he talked of the accusations that traveled with him. “Nobody wrote warning us about you. And no one has shown up saying anything bad about you. But we would like very much to hear more [about your story].” (Acts 28.21)
With humbleness, each moment is an opportunity to do something positive. In any state, I can be a force for good.
