In a moment of frustration, a colleague offered an observation in a meeting.
“We talk a lot about our problems, but we never try to solve them.”
The more I have reflected on his statement, the more I have come to accept how truth filled it is. As I consider how far this observation extends, I find that it equally applies to my social life and what is personal and private. It is easy to recognize our problems, difficulties, and weaknesses. Doing something about each, regardless of how obvious and easy the solution might be, is often difficult.
Lesson reminders I am using include the following.
Skip the step of trying to do it alone. Two life lessons from the multiple attempts in going it alone. First, I have never been strong enough to succeed on my own. Second, even if I was, doing anything by oneself is never as fun as doing it with another. The standing offer was documented in the psalms and available to all who would avail themselves; “God gives a hand to those down on their luck, gives a fresh start to those ready to quit.” (Psalm 145.14).
Recognize that the journey is longer and more difficult than one imagines. Even destinations which are crisp, clear, and seemingly within reach can be difficult to achieve! The lesson reminder is to start and focus on the first step. Celebrate its achievement while turning to take the second. Celebrate the second and turn to the third. Repeat the process again and again, learning with each step.
Reflect and remind oneself often of the goal and those with you on the journey. Doubts and frustrations will inevitably park themselves in the steps. The fact that they are there should not come as a surprise. With help at my side, we have an opportunity to bring resolved care and kindness to the forefront with all the resolve and commitment we can muster.
Problems in all shapes and sizes are a part of life. Within this moment is an opportunity to lift our communities and life.
