A friend had a deadline yesterday. He had committed, to himself first then to me, that he could have a deliverable done by yesterday morning. It wasn’t. On top of that, rather than manage external expectations, he went on as if nothing had happened. I waiting a patient half-day then followed up to see how far the he had progressed. The answer and the way it was given told me much more than he intended.
This project was not his number one priority. While one conflict took precedence, it is hard to imagine that there wasn’t enough time for the initiative at hand.
Distractions consumed the time available to work on the project. Several fun, nice to have, and enjoyable distractions have consumed the free time during the past six days. No one individual or activity dominated. In combination they overwhelmed individual commitment and determination.
While important, failure did not carry any negative consequences. Nothing was at risk. There were no economic strings attached. I had asked about this only to let the outcome slide when I received no response.
When I look myself in the mirror, I see my shadow on life’s playground. When I think of my aspirations, I know my actions are not reflecting what I think is core. If I take a fresh look at where my time has been spent, distractions dominate! Even the outcomes is a mixed bag; even in my denial, I know there are lost opportunities.
An excerpt of wisdom writings offers a piece of advice that remains with me. It continues to whisper, much like an unending echo. “Go after a life of love as if your life depended on it—because it does. Give yourselves to the gifts God gives you.” (1 Corinthians 14.1)
The deadline has been reset for a few days out. I have my doubts. I have challenged him on his priorities and commitment. I have a commitment of the consequences that follow. I hope he succeeds. I also hope that I am able to learn from him and move with fresh steps.
