Life would be very different if the problems we faced fell into spaces we understood and knew how to respond to. A friend missed a gathering due to an unexpected event. I knew how important the evening was, so to miss it, the situation must be a big one. Since the specifics were not discussed publically, I am not sure what the underlying event was. For much of the evening I wondered, I wanted to do something but what could or should I do? I could not see an obvious answer.
The reality of life being fuzzy is something we all share. While there are choices that are clearly undesirable, acceptable, good, and great come in many forms. An important reminder I use with myself starts with accepting that there are a range of choices and responding with intent and aspiration.
Reflecting on how I responded last night, I noticed the following.
One does not need to be certain before taking action. I am still not sure of the specifics, but I could express my empathy and compassion. I have no idea what he specifically needs or what help would be useful, but I can express my willingness to help should it be useful.
Being empathetic and compassionate are gifts we offer to others. Important aspects of giving are found in the words unconditional and without the need for recognition or reward. Translated, even if not used, never picked up, or carelessly discarded, our gifts are just that, gifts. Having expressed the ideal, personal memories remind me how difficult this can be.
When one connects with others in taking action, celebrate. When one misses, walk on knowing that the important call to action that we have in our lives is to be engaged in the business of living with and for each other.
There is a model the psalmist talks to that illustrates the breath and depth of the challenge; “In one hand he holds deep caves and caverns, in the other hand grasps the high mountains.” (Psalm 95.4) We are called to do god work.
