During my university days my people judgement was often optimistic. I often looked and saw others in the way s/he hoped they would be. In the absence of evidence to the contrary, trust was shared, and dependencies formed.
In one case, as we were bullied on the road, my anger and confidence reached a high and untested state. Looking back, given the lack of any verification or evidence, the confidence was irrational. However, in the moment, I aggressively countered the bully’s moved and forced his car to the side of the road. With unlimited arrogance, I boldly walked to his car with my voice on maximum.
In response, a man of equal standing opened his door, stood, and in a smooth 1 step forward landed a right hook squarely between my eyes. As I gathered myself, picking up the pieces of my prescription lens and frame, I looked to see what my 2nd line of defense were doing to defend my honor. To my chagrin, my eyes rested on two boys in the seats where my manly friends had been.
As I consider life’s battles, I remember the lesson on that hidden Oregon highway. I discovered I was alone and exposed. I also learned that I was this way because of the place where I placed my trust. The lesson reminders of that day remain as fresh today as they were in the aftermath of being humbled and hurt.
With any battle, be sure it is one you are called to fight. On the remote highway in Oregon, there was no battle which included my name. In other situations, the front line has been reserved. It has my name and the allies who will join me are well known.
Allies earn their titles with experiential trust. Reliance comes through validated words and actions. When it is real, anything is possible. Only a fool risks all without validated trust.
If you know a battle is coming, never go it alone. Gather your allies; “God, my Lord, Strong Savior, protect me when the fighting breaks out!” (Psalm 140.07)
