Response

I am not a fan of passive acceptance.  I think it is an unfortunate, extremely sad actually, when one fails to exercise the freedom held within.  We have the right and ability to make choices in any situation.  We have an obligation to make the choices that determine our path.  Even when one cannot find options that fit desires, hopes, and dreams, he or she still has the freedom to choose the next step.
I find myself caught in a trap of my making. I have sacrificed what was not mine to sacrifice.  I have given the most priceless gift that Divinity gives each away without consideration; someone else is currently holding my freedom.  I have passively accepted life as it unfolded without consideration for my soul's values and priorities.
In the place I find myself, I know that there are several facts.  First, I cannot decide what is right or wrong for you.  I can talk of God facts.  I can focus in on healthy and destructive.  I can even question how choices link with values.  My role in every conversation is one of support and compassion.  Life can be hard!  Life is often very difficult.  Life overwhelms.  My goal is to always be part of a solution, never condemnation, criticism, or a burden. 
It is never easy to hold one's tongue.  An old example helps.  Two wise guys, “Peter and John spoke right back, 'Whether it's right in God's eyes to listen to you rather than to God, you decide.'”  (Acts 4.19)  They already knew they answer for their souls.
I know there is a way out.  The answer lies in being with God.  I know it sounds odd, but doing the stuff of life with God in the present is the way to change everything.  Taking the ordinary, waking, sleeping, eating, walking, and doing the stuff of the moment at hand, and giving it to God as an offering, is the greatest gift we can give to Divinity.  At the same time, God changes begin to repair our souls from the inside out.