“What do you think about the opportunities?’
“They are very different.”
“How?”
“One side thinks it is a privilege for you to join their team, the other wants you to join with them as they pursue a great quest.”
I watched kids choosing sides for a soccer game. No matter how positive the process is, there is something quietly sad when it comes to the last two standing. Whatever anyone might say, it feels as if neither is wanted. The last person is the worst – one team is stuck with the individual that nobody wanted. This is a place that nobody wants to be in. It is especially difficult when the potential teammates want somebody that the decision makers do not. In the end, everyone is disappointed.
I have experienced being the last one on board. Regardless of how good or bad the team is, being the last one in is not a good thing. It never feels like you are there because you are wanted. Nobody is looking for you to contribute because they did not plan on you being here to start with. It seems like you are a body filling a slot, nothing more.
The list of places where one can experience being the odd man out is endless – companies with approved position that has limited support, churches where the regulars treat it like an exclusive club, and even shops with an arrogant attitude towards customers. Having experienced the feeling of non-acceptance recently, I find myself getting angry before realizing that there are choices! I can look to be where I am welcome.
I know a firm that smile when I walk in the door. Even when they are busy, I get a warm hello. Everything can be chaotic and I am still welcomed. It is a wonderful feeling that never gets old. They remind me that the God I know who unconditionally accepts also leaves the door open with a standing invitation; “Keep company with God, get in on the best.” (Psalm 37.4) It’s a good thing to be a part of.
