In my world, languages, cultures, and the meaning of words increasingly find themselves thrown together in a chaotic yet convenient mix. Sentences are filled with multiple languages, unique grammar, and context based meaning. When everyone understands, it is amazing! Whatever one might think, the communication is clear. It is also unusually concise. And it is often direct.
There is one catch. If one does not understand, the outcome is no communication. Simple put, nothing happens! Words have little or no meaning, grammar does not clarify and organize, and sounds fade without one being able to understanding. The point of confusion varies – in Singapore it could be the use of Singlish or any one of the four languages or dialects. In business, it could be the phrases used. Then there are the words that are historical. If someone used “Edom and the Ishmaelites, Moab and the Hagrites,” (Psalm 83.6) I do not think anyone would hear with awareness and context.
Many see the catch as a problem. I have come to appreciate that knowing another may not understand is an opportunity for real dialogue. In looking at the best conversations I have ever had, let me suggest the following.
Dialogue is always better than debate. When both parties come with the intent of learning and listening, the conversation that follows leaves each enriched and filled with a sense of possibilities. Equally true is the reality that debates rarely help either party. Winning tends to put at least one down, instead of lifting both up.
Knowing that one or both may not understand is an opportunity to approach the conversation humbly. The average Singaporean speaks two languages, many three and four. Their communication toolbox is so much greater than mind! Taking my admiration as a starting point, creates opportunities to ask for clarification and education. It is not a sign of weakness to ask how to pronounce a word. It is an opportunity to learn and grow.
I have come to see that the differences have always been present, even when we think we speak the same language.
