The conversation is fresh, even though it is weeks old. There was a blunt reality within its words. There was no question that we had different viewpoints. As it our words heated up, I realized that each side was open to the other. Yes, the words were intense. Yes, they were spoken with passion and conviction. They were also offered as constructive feedback with the intent of taking the shared view to a stronger place.
The conversation was not easy. I was left tired, exhausted, and uncertain. These are not the reasons the conversation is still vivid. With a bit of rest and reflection, I realized that I could see the points raised. While I did not agree with every point, I was richer for the dialogue. As I woke, I also realized that I was filled with energy and hope! I knew that the document we were working on could be stronger. I understood some of the missing points.
I look back with admiration on the courage of any that cares enough to share their views. It is a gift. In my case, I discovered that there was a recurring model that I want to embrace more willingly. David put it this way; “With all my might I shout up to God, His answers thunder from the holy mountain. I stretch myself out. I sleep. Then I’m up again – rested, tall and steady, fearless before the enemy mobs coming at me from all sides.” (Psalm 3.4-6)
Having honest conversations is not always easy. Experience reminds me that they are openings to more. We can be more than who and what we are. We can do more than what we have done.
Hearing often takes longer than a conversation. For me, reflection and quietness often releases a broader understanding of the words and intent. Whatever the vehicle is, my suggestion is to use it.
Life offers us wisdom in many ways. Difficult conversations are part of that gift. How useful they turn out to be depends on what you and I do with them.