I am watching a team trying to do it on their own. History tells me that they are unlikely to succeed. They need others to clap with them. They need the creativity and insight that comes with the embrace of diversity. They need what they do not have. Despite multiple examples in the past, there is a resolute determination to push ahead, conquer, and deliver. External measures suggest that they are already failing. The pleas of denial are challenged by missed deadlines, work that is incomplete, and lack of cooperation with anyone external.
My criticism has softened as I found myself looking in the mirror. Several questions emerged that caused me to pause.
Have I done everything I could to help them? Speaking in clichés, despite the lack of appetite for help, did I prepare something that would provide for them? While I have done what is required, have I reached out to them in ways they have indicated would help?
Do I understand the “why” in their actions? Are my assumptions driving my viewpoint and the actions that follow? Am I open to understanding their view and steps from their perspective?
In the context of reaching out while knowing the why, am I willing to exercise tough love? Being compassionate and understanding does not mean that one lets Accountability go on holiday.
I need for the team to be successful. While it is in their interests, it is also in mine. Be codependent means that I need to be a positive part of moving forward. There is an old cliché; “No king succeeds with a big army alone, no warrior wins by brute strength.” (Psalm 33.16) As obvious as it is, it is one that I easily forget.
In my reflection, I see late deliverables where others can help. I see opportunities to leverage the insights of others. I see potential in working in collaboration. In living out what I am hoping others will do, I find myself rediscovering the values of compassion, community, and collaboration. The awareness fills me with a sense of hope.