Discovering what motivates an individual is like finding the keys to the car. Unlimited possibilities and insights exist! Conversations take on a different tone. The easy and fun conversations take on deeper meaning. Difficult subjects are more accessible and less defensive. All because one or both sides understands what motivates the other.
Understanding motivators gives me an opportunity for greater understanding, which often translate into greater compassion. I am able to walk in the others shoes, trying on different alternatives with deeper understanding, insight, and sympathy. It is a lot more difficult in this process to be critical; my focus is often on what I can do to help and nurture.
When I stop to examine my motivators, it can be very scary. The exteriors rarely leads to the keys, the show often points to opposite values. What has and what will be the drivers of my life?
At times, I have kept holy days, honored commitments, and followed traditions because of other people's values and potential perceptions. I know my feelings about life swing up and down, however, that does not account for the change in my life. My motivators of the past no longer work or apply.
There are lessons I can share with this. You can avoid my mistakes. “What's important in all this is that if you keep a holy day, keep it for God's sake.” (Romans 14.6) Whatever you do, do it for God's sake, nothing else.
The rationale is simple. First, anything else is ultimately driving towards the God within; the fact that I think I can handle or accomplish something on my own. I could not; you can and will not. Second, arriving at a destination because you did it to survive, maintain your status or reputation, or get ahead at another's expense will never bring peace or happiness. It just does not happen. Third, we find the harmony and purpose in our lives linked to the living out the reality of our values and priorities.
Take at look at what motivates your actions. It could save your life.