It is hard to explain the dynamics, even when you know the other person is involved in a similar type of relationship. What words explain just how much it hurts when your best friend and lover word’s piece you body and soul. Is there a metaphor that captures the intense burning and anguish when your hearts has been torn by one close to you? Whatever your experience is with this, I have yet to find anyone who can readily and willingly describe it. Whatever “it” is, it is beyond description, beyond comprehension, and almost beyond endurance.
Ironically a kiss, even from someone you do not like or care for, feels good. The act in itself tends to begin the process of mending bridges and linking the gaps. Some individuals I know revel in the barbs just so they can experience the healing moment of the kiss.
Ironically Wisdom points out what is so easy to forget. Be careful of the experience when you haven’t thought and understood the motive. “The wounds from a lover are worth it; kisses from an enemy do you in.” (Proverbs 27.6) Reactions are just what they are; rarely do they measure things for their true worth.
Much of our life pivots on the “feel good” factor. We mask over the difficulties, bypass the tough conversations, and ignore times of accountability just so we feel good. True love doesn’t do that.
Love holds me accountable when the process will bring more than the present.
Love confronts me with the difficult when avoiding it takes me away from my goal.
Love deals with the ugly and the unpleasant, because that is part of the life we live in.
The fact is, to quote another, is that Love accepts me just the way I am but loves me too much to leave me that way.
There is winning and there is WINNING! If Love needs to take care of business; then get on with it! If my enemy wants me to feel good for the moment; away from me! Life is about real Love.