We use words like “sugar coat” and “high level”. We talk of “not getting bogged down in the details” and “white lies”. Each statement summarizes our efforts to help others understand the story within the story along with truth buried within. Alternatively, potentially hiding with each statement is our intent to deceive and manipulate. We do not want out audience to draw their own conclusion; we need to control it. We cannot let others see and understand; we need to ensure our audience knows exactly what we want them to know.
There is a knife’s edge between refining one’s message so that one understands the truth and deceit. The latter is the extreme of sugar coating, high level, not getting bogged down in the details, and white lies. As I listened to an explanation recently, I knew I was being led away from the truth. Life does not come with warranties despite assurances to the contrary. I can only think of one thing that is guaranteed, even though the words on the brochure said that the promises were sure.
I have two friends that stand out for a singular reason. They rarely promise anything. Most conversations avoid anything to do with hard commitments, promises, and deadlines. They do what they can when they can. It is who they are. I know they will do their best. Meanwhile, I have no expectations.
I think of trust, candor, and certainty, and only one has all three – Divinity. The rest are like you and me, human. In my doubts and uncertainty, I look to and find certainty in a God defined by principles of Compassion, Love, and Community. The psalmist plea and confession are mine as well. “Be a guest room where I can retreat; you said your door was always open! You’re my salvation – my vast, granite fortress.” (Psalm 71.3)
I recognize the struggle with doubts and uncertainties. Sometimes the only answer seems to be within. My struggle fuels my belief in the principles that define life’s value and purpose. God invites us to be divine partners.