My approach, at least in my mind’s eye, was a logical, caring, and timing response to the opportunity. I took decisions, thought through the potential impact, and had the appropriate conversation to build and gain consensus in advance. With the decision executed, my victim did not see things through my eyes. The impact of my actions continues to ripple while acts of healing and recovery are underway.
Was I completely ignorant and uncaring? What will make the difference going forward?
In relationships understanding culture, customs and value systems, and pressures factor into how we relate with each other. Cultural differences and personal customs are, generally, not matters of right and wrong. Even if they are, do I treat the person with any different? The obvious answer is that I should be even more loving and caring because of the differences! Individual values are just that, individual. You and I evaluate things differently in life, have varying priorities, and walk different path for a wide range of reasons. It is important to recognize that our experiences in life and relationships with others, along with our understanding of the past, present, and future, all influence the value system we hold as our own.
I did not look at both sides of my decision and choice. Often I do not look at the impact of my choice because I assume I know where I am going.
The difficult reality to accept is that “without all the paraphernalia of the law code, sin looked pretty dull and lifeless, and I went [go] along without paying much attention to it. But once sin got its hands on the law code and decked itself out in all that finery, I was [continue to be] fooled, and fell for it.” (Romans 7.11)
With awareness comes the opportunity to do something different! Today is my opportunity to take acts of healing and recovery to new heights. I can focus on giving mercy and grace to others and for myself. I may have been ignorant, with God I do not have to stay that way!